Are On The Rise
At the BGCenter we see internationally
adopted children with disabilities, with typical and expected cognitive
and language delays, and we sometime see children whose development
is age-appropriate and close to normal. What we also observe now more
often than before is the rise of unexpected behavioral issues months
after the arrival when, as one would think, the children have already
settled after the initial adjustment period.
There are certain
reasons why an adopted child, after a period of seemingly normal behavior,
suddenly goes out of control: he or she may simply become more comfortable
in the new environment, and trust the parents not to send them back
to the orphanage if they misbehave (as many children believe may happen
to them long after the adoption). And certainly there are old traumatic
experiences that may be stirred accidentally; or ADHD, or other neurologically
induced disorder have surged again.
One more possible trigger is
the renewed demand for a better command of English, when the initial
"forgiveness" on the part of the peer group is gone and the
child feels that he or she is still not like all the rest because of
the lack of proper English. That's where emotional and behavioral problems
can kick in.
We have already talked about such problems and
will continue publications on behavior issues related to identifiable
causes in adoptees. In the collection of articles from our database
below we just want to attract your attention to general population issues
which effect internationally adopted children as well.
Skills and Techniques for Children
As a society, we
spend too much of our energy identifying and punishing the bully that
we fail to spend enough time empowering the victims of bullying. We
should spend more of our energy on the things that we can control
rather than the things we have limited or no control over.
You Doing Enough to Protect Your Troubled Teen from Media Influence?
well-intentioned parents go to great lengths to protect their children
from exposure to violence, sex, and profanity in the media. But in
todays child-hostile media environment, such precautions are
simply not enough. To truly protect your children from harmful influences,
you must learn to look beyond arbitrary ratings to the messages being
conveyed by the media.
Gary Direnfeld, MSW, RSW
and Managing School-Age Children with Behavioral Problems
behavior in school-age children is more than simply identifying a
few problems and if you don't get it right, you can make matters worse.
This article defines a good assessment process...