Trying to Make Sense
We hate when people
tell us that we saved AJ
that we did such a wonderful thing for
him. When we tell people that AJ is adopted (because it really is not
obvious if you see us together) they automatically tell us what a wonderful
thing we did for him
wow, what would his life be like if you left
Like he would rot?
He would live. He would most likely still be living in the orphanage.
He would probably be in the special needs orphanage because he would
be considered handicapped by their standards and when he reached age
he would then go live on the streets or be institutionalized. In the
best case scenario they would have discovered his food issues and addressed
them but I doubt it, as they have too many children to care for.
But, we did not do
a wonderful thing. We adopted because we wanted a family and it was
the only way we could have one. We adopted because we wanted to, not
because we wanted to give a needy child a home.
Does that make me
a horrible person? No. But, dont tell me I saved him. Did you
ever think that perhaps I saved myself?
Posted by Marcie on
November 7th, 2007
Child Chosen Blog
do children really understand what "Adoption" means?
should inform their adopted children as soon as possible about their
status. The issue should thereafter be discussed more often at various
points in time to give the children a chance to grasp their special
status and the opportunity to ask questions. Only an early introduction
to the subject will give parents and children a chance to develop an
open and trusting relationship between each other.
and Biological children: the melting pot
kids laughed in delight right along with me when we tore open our referral
packet and saw their new brother's face for the first time.
Adopted Child Is a Riddle. Now I Have a Clue