With Your Child
Gary Direnfeld, MSW, RSW
your money and get on the floor
relationships cannot be bought. Good parent-child relationships are
a by-product of spending not money, but time together. Many parents
say they spend quality time with their kids, but when looked
at more closely, it seems this phrase can take on a different meaning
I dont spend much time with the kids, but when I do, I
spoil them by buying them things.
child at play
The world of childhood is quite different
from our adult world. It is not simply a smaller version of it. It is
a different world, and you have to learn to understand it. You have
to learn to "read" child's behavior. Every parent needs these
skills, but parents adopting internationally may need them more then
others, since you will not have the advantage of understanding your
child's native language.
what, and how you should teach your preschooler
children are interested in the world around them and they are interested
in what their parents know. Building on that interest to teach basic
concepts is not pushing your child -- it is meeting your child's needs.
One of the most important things you can do for your child is to offer
an environment rich in learning opportunities.
Boris Gindis, Ph.D.
to Promote Healthy Development
The most important task
in the first weeks and months of adoption is to strengthen attachment
with your internationally adopted child. Playing and taking care of
the childs basic needs (feeding, bathing, etc.) will constitute
your major occupation at this time. Without being intrusive, try to
have as much physical contact with the child as possible using shared