#39 for Internationally Adopting Parents
November 12, 2006
In this issue
of International Adoptees for the Special Education Services
of a group consultation:
Focused on a specific post-adoption issue, a small
group of 3-8 families (parents, no children) gathers at the BGCenter
on the date and time, scheduled for the group of your choice led
by one or several moderators.
A moderator is a professional (child psychologist,
therapist, pediatrician, school administrator or lawyer) specializing
in the related services to adoptive families and/or children.
The moderator's presentation on the specified issue
Case presentation by each family with group discussion
and the moderator's recommendations
Concluding remarks by the moderator: action plan
for dealing with the problem in question
length of a consultation session is 3 hours.
Boris Gindis, Ph.D.
Anton Papakhin, Esq. Attorney at law
When and how does an adoptive family recognize
the need for special education placement and services for their
What is school position on remediation of international
What are the parent's legal rights in obtaining
special education services?
What are the strategies for obtaining timely and
adequate special education support for an internationally adopted
How do I prepare for the Educational Planning Conference
(EPC) where the service eligibility question is discussed?
the session we will address the following questions:
The participants will be provided with samples
of legal documentation and service request letters. A simulated
Educational Planning Conference will be analyzed.
Prices and schedules
will be announced
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Child's Guide to Adoption
is a family created? Most people think that a family is made when a
couple gives birth to children. But families can happen in many ways.
In the television show The Brady Bunch, the mother and father get remarried,
combining their two families into one. Another way to create a family
is by adoption.
is in the best interest of a child? Is the focus on racially matching
a child with her adoptive family more important than providing a stable,
loving and nurturing home?
as a Single Woman
unlike their married counterparts who pursue adoption, single women
often pursue motherhood citing the same need and desire to love and
nurture a child of their own.
childs room can be one of the most challenging rooms in the house
when it comes to getting organized and staying organized. With some
training though, the children will actually be able to learn a system
for keeping up with it themselves. That will make your job much easier.
to Become Conversational Partners
Use comments and questions to
Remind yourself during interactions
and conversations that your goal is to communicate and exchange information
with the child, to connect and enjoy one another's company. You're not
aiming to teach or test him because, as soon as you do, your focus is
no longer on exchanging information, and chances are that the child
will lose his desire to interact.
When you are a responsive conversation
partner, your comments and questions communicate your interest to the
child, proving him with scaffolds so he can take another turn.
Adults in conversations with children
often underestimate comments. It's true that when children are learning
to have conversations, they don't respond as easily to comments as they
do to questions.
Comments can be used to get a conversation started
(they act as leading statements), as well as to give children interesting
information, which they'll want to respond to.
Avoid questions that stop the conversation
- Testing questions can stop the
Let's imagine that Joey, a
4-year-old child with a language delay, runs up to show you a white
stone he found in the playground. "Look me find", he exclaims.
If you ask questions like
"What color is it?" "What shape is it?" "How
does it feel?", or "What's this called?" you won't
capture his excitement and nor will you acknowledge and confirm
his interest. Testing questions like these put pressure on the child
and keep him from talking about things of real interest to him -
such as where he found the stone, whether he's ever seen a stone
like this before and what he wants to do
- Rhetorical questions limit the
Questions that don't really
require a response, are wonderful for infants who react to your
tone of voice, but not for preschoolers who have something to say.
If a 3-year-old shows you a tower he has built and you respond by
saying "That's a big tower, isn't it?" it won't do much
to keep the conversation going.
- Complex questions, which are
above the child's receptive language level can cause a breakdown in
A child's understanding of
questions develops over time, and questions that require a descriptive
reply are generally more difficult to understand than questions
that require "Yes" or "No" answer.
that begin with "How?" and "When?" are the most
difficult for children to understand. And when you ask children
"Why?" questions, they may say "Because," without
really understanding what they are being asked. If you ask a child
a question such as "How are you getting home today?" and
it's obvious that he doesn't understand you, change it to one that
he can answer, such as "Who's picking you up today?" or
even "Is Mummy picking you up today?" This way, you repair
the breakdown in communication.
You can't avoid asking children
questions they don't understand, nor should you try to. However,
you should be aware of those questions that will frustrate children
or end the conversation because they are inappropriately complex.
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